Updated: Apr 3
What to "drop" so we can feel...
Drop the blame
When we experience emotional discomfort, there is this tendency to "automatically" resort to blaming. Either blaming others or blaming ourselves, and at times blaming God. Just what if, we drop this blame. We drop this pointing finger as to who caused our pains, we drop this blame thing as to who is and should be responsible for how we currently feel.
Drop the explanations, justifications, and rationalizations
Drop the need to know, drop the intellectualization and rationalization, drop the tendency to control why events happened, and why it happened to you (and not to others). What if you just float or even allow yourself to sink in into this void of not knowing, of no explanations, of no reasons, of no justifications. It is what it is...
Drop to your body
Bring our attention to the sensations of our body. One of the best ways to do this is to do a body scan accompanied with breath work. Bring our focus on what is happening to our bodies, is there any constriction, any tightness, any discomfort, any pain? And as we go deeper into this process, we actually can receive messages and insights from our bodily sensations. This happens when we intentionally provide unconditional and nonjudgmental awareness to our bodily sensations. Our bodies are extensions of our emotions and dropping to our physical sensations allow us to feel.
Drop the (emotional) pacifiers
What is your emotional pacifier of choice? Drugs? Shopping? Sex? Food? Work? Travel? Rude as this may sound....drop these. This can be an intensely uncomfortable experience to set aside our emotional pacifiers. Try this and see for yourself how quick this can allow you to feel your feelings.
Drop the surface emotions
Surface emotions are the initial emotions we show consciously or unconsciously to mask core emotions. Our surface emotions are there to protect us in some way and to avoid instances of vulnerability perhaps it is not safe to be in such state or you are not ready to truly feel and be vulnerable. An example would be 'anger', when we drop 'anger', what is underneath? Is it hurt? is it fear? is it feelings of powerless and hopelessness? Our main task here is to be mindful of our expressed emotions, are they the core ones or are they surface emotions?